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Mark still with us

  • Jul. 11th, 2009 at 6:44 AM
pharos
J, post as you deem appropriate.

Just came back from ICU. I can't describe the relief I felt at still seeing mark's name still on the board. So afraid he was gone and they didn't want to wake me.

He is still there, lub-dubbing away. They are taking him back into surgery this morning to clean out the chest cavity. A lot of blood and fluid has accumulated around the heart, making it work harder. The inset drains aren't clearing it fast enough.  the surgery will clean it out. I am terrified, but it is necessary. I could see the dressing over his gaping chest wound was bulging.

He only had one more fibrillation during the night, which is good. His blood pressure is all over the map, which is bad. Reliving the pressure around the heart should help them control it.

They lightened the anestheisia, and he moved all extremities, which is good. There may now be long therm mental consequences, but maybe not. No one knows for sure. Right now, I don't care.  I just want my husband alive.

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[info]ladyjestocost wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 02:40 pm (UTC)
Praying for you and Mark.
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[info]kate_schaefer wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 02:46 pm (UTC)
Heart, keep on with that lub-dubbing, and no vacations. Tahiti can wait until the whole person gets to go there with you.

Elizabeth, any horizontal time you can get, go for it.
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[info]ironymaiden wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 03:23 pm (UTC)
don't hesitate to call us if you need anything. Kai was delighted to go to the Junction with us this morning. the folks at Verite were a little confused that we came with a well-used coffee card and mugs, yet they had never seen us before.
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[info]wendyice wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 03:31 pm (UTC)
Keeping vigil here, too, like so many must be. Tried bed at 6 am, after a bout of Marx Bros. Night at the Opera (David thought we should send thoughts of Groucho to Mark.) As you say, can't call it sleep. Just so much love and these constant clumsy attempts at telepathy. I guess this is the closest thing to prayer that we know.

Do try to take care of yourself. I feel stupid writing that--stupid writing anything. But can't help saying again how much we love you both. I'm thinking maybe spouses ought to be anesthetized simultaneously; this is all so unreasonably hard on your poor heart.
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[info]varina8 wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 04:08 pm (UTC)
Incense and herbs on the altar. You are both in my prayers. Call or have J call if you need anything.
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[info]jerrykaufman wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 04:25 pm (UTC)
You have the best wishes of myself and Suzle, for what it's worth.
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[info]suricattus wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 05:27 pm (UTC)
Good heart-vibes coming from the East Coast, via [info]scarlettina's F-list...
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[info]janetl wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 05:30 pm (UTC)
So sorry you're both going through this wringer. I second (3rd? 5th?) the advice to try to take care of yourself.
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[info]coffeeinhell wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 05:31 pm (UTC)
I'm sending all the good heart-thoughts that I can muster. Mark is much-loved, so if good vibes help, he must be getting them in tidal waves.
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[info]pecunium wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 05:54 pm (UTC)
Hopes and prayers and what comforts they bring.
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[info]neile wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 06:00 pm (UTC)
You're both in our thoughts. We're wishing you absolutely the best.
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[info]jaylake wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 06:11 pm (UTC)
Luck and love to you guys. You are both very much in my thoughts.
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[info]shunn wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 06:12 pm (UTC)
Hang in there, both of you. We are thinking about you and sending good thoughts.
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[info]wendyice wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 06:23 pm (UTC)
Update Received as of Sat, 11 Jul 2009 10:58:53 (PST)
Just received this update from Jennifer Smith :

"Elizabeth just called. The surgery went well this morning. Mark is still
sedated but looks a little better, and the doctors think they've figured out
how to stabilize his blood pressure. Austin has arrived and is with Elizabeth now."
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[info]keikaimalu wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 07:52 pm (UTC)
Thinking of you both. I wish there was more we could do. You have a lot of people pulling for you.
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[info]edwardmartiniii wrote:
Jul. 11th, 2009 10:39 pm (UTC)
Thinking good thoughts for both of you, dear, distant friends.
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[info]ironymaiden wrote:
Jul. 12th, 2009 02:40 am (UTC)
further update for folks checking here:
"Mark report, 6:45 pm: still in ICU, still not stable, has a fever. He's getting a blood transfusion to improve blood pressure. Not bad, but not good."
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[info]shandralyn wrote:
Jul. 12th, 2009 04:31 am (UTC)
You may not remember me, but I've met you and Mark a few times back in Portland, mostly at [info]edwardmartiniii's parties. I also know [info]davidlevine, and am [info]kate_schaefer's daughter-out-law. Keeping you and Mark firmly in my thoughts...
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[info]slundahl wrote:
Jul. 12th, 2009 05:49 am (UTC)
any more news?
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